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No one wants to have this debate. Anti-pornography is no longer an acceptable stance among progressives. Sex-positive feminism tells us that everyone should be free to explore their sexualities in any way they wish, without restriction or shame. This sounds good on paper. Anti-pornography is a position largely left to Christian fundamentalists. Pornography is absolutely normal and normalized in most facets of Western culture. It is accepted and understood, even if it is not discussed in polite company. It is almost as if no one is willing to look at what it really is. But, look we must.

I will…


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We all understand how much modern medicine has improves lives and increased longevity. Broken arms and serious diseases require treatment that we trust doctors to deliver. Many of us, though, struggle with nagging, chronic health conditions that vary from hardly noticeable through mildly irritating to almost unbearable, things like chronic allergies, asthma, skin conditions, and digestive issues. Doctors give us prescriptions and we take them, while we worry about side effects and wonder if we will have to be on them for the rest of our lives.

Looking at me, you’d think I’m in good health. I have a pretty…


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I’ve been with my husband for fifteen years. In that time, I have gone through the secret, inner questioning I have to believe all long-term partnered people experience: Where has the passion gone? Why can’t it last? Is monogamy natural? Why did I promise never to experience the excitement of newly born desire again for the rest of my life?

Unless you find yourself in one of those rare, long-term relationships where both partners are satisfied with the quantity and quality of sex, there is likely to be some kind of issue around your sex lives. Much has been written…


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Let’s put aside for a moment that we probably aren’t allowed to enjoy Woody Allen movies anymore, and think back to a time when we could watch Annie Hall, his most beloved and well-known film, the one that comes closest to a perfect execution of his quirky, psycho-intellectual humor, his sweet loss-tinged reflections on romance, and of course, his ardent love for the city of New York. Even with the dark cloud of the man hanging over the work, it’s hard for many people like me — white middle class Americans of an artistic persuasion — not to admire this…

Nora Wilder

English major, English Master's, then realized the dream of a career in the Humanities is dead. Shit.

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